• St. Mary's by the Sea is a Christian community
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  • seekers and believers alike
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  • and in the wider world,
  • and to grow in faith
  • as part of a caring Christian family.
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We are a loving and inclusive community of believers and seekers who know that God is love (1 John 4:16), mercy triumphs over judgement (James 2:13), and being a Christian means living and loving like Jesus (Matthew, Mark, Luke & John). Come and see!

Week of October 13, 2019

Eighteenth Sunday after Pentecost
Proper 23
The Rev. Victoria Pretti

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Collection for the Diocese of the Bahamas
“Rejoice in hope, be patient in suffering, contribute to the needs of the saints,
extend hospitality to strangers.”
-- Romans 12:12-13

We’ve all been heartbroken to see the devastation visited upon the Bahamas by Hurricane Dorian. As of Friday morning, more than 30 are confirmed dead, with that number expected to rise significantly. Large areas have been completely leveled. Lives, homes, and basic infrastructure have all been destroyed. The blessing of diversity all across our diocesan community also means that the vast majority of our congregations are grieving family members and friends who have been impacted, or have community connections with those whose loved ones have been affected. Bishop Stokes has pledged the support of our Diocese to relief efforts led by the Anglican Diocese of The Bahamas & The Turks and Caicos, and is offering us the opportunity to respond in solidarity by asking congregations to take up a second collection every Sunday in September to benefit storm victims in the Bahamas. Checks should be made out to St. Mary’s (please note: Diocese of the Bahamas in the memo) At the end of the month a check for the total will be forwarded to the Diocesan House which will then be forwarded to the Discretionary Fund for Bishop Laish Zane Boyd Sr. in the Bahamas.

UPDATE: BISHOP STOKES RECENT REQUEST Thanks to your generosity we will be sending a check to the Diocese in the amount of $1431.00 which they will forward to the Diocese of the Bahamas for the relief efforts in the Bahamas & Turks and Caicos.

SINGERS NEEDED The choir is in need of a few singers, especially females (altos and sopranos). If interested, please speak to
JoAnn Roy, our choir director/organist.

SPECIAL THANKS to John Wesson and Rich Wood for cutting and trimming the church lawn all summer


Third quarter contribution statements are available at the back of the church. Please pick yours up on the way out. Thanks

POINT PLEASANT GARDEN CLUB will meet next on Tuesday, November 12th at 7PM. All are welcome!


If you have any experience in fundraising or special event planning we would love to pick your brain! Please reach out to Mother Victoria, Mike Mercuro, Suzanne Jorgensen, or phone the parish office and speak to Cherisse.

Eucharistic Ministers
are available to bring Communion to those who are not able to get to church for extended periods of time due to illness or mobility issues. We are grateful to Robin Henry for stepping forward to co-ordinate this vital parish ministry. If you know of someone who needs home, hospital, rehab, or nursing home visits, please let us know. If you would like to be trained to participate in this beautiful ministry, please contact Robin or Mother Victoria.

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IHN HOST WEEK begins Sunday evening, October 20th through Sunday morning, October 27th. Please consider helping out with set-up, break-down, overnight hosting, or hospitality. The signup sheet is in Farnsworth Hall and all help is greatly appreciated. Questions? Mike Mercuro 732-267-5474, Jessie Mercuro 732-272-6828 or Lynn Schambach 732-403-9708 would be happy to talk further. Thank you!



Will be held at the Clarion Hotel in Toms River on November 1, 2019. Doors open at 5PM and tickets are $40.00 each. There is a cash bar. Please call 732-341-7675 for more information

ST. MARY’S CHALLENGE A COMPLETE SUCCESS!! We have not only met the challenge, we have exceeded it by $135.00!

SUNDAY SCHOOL FAMILIES We’re nearing the start of another fun Sunday School year and we look forward to seeing the children of St. Mary’s. Copies of the calendar and registration form are attached here and can also be found at the rear of the church. Please complete the registration form and return to teachers on the first day of class in September (the 15th).

Download Registration Form here


Back in January, at the Annual Meeting, we introduced the St. Mary’s Challenge. The challenge was that if we could raise an additional $5,000 in donations (designated as St. Mary’s Challenge) above our pledged amount of donations, an anonymous donor would match those additional donations dollar for dollar.
We have not only met the challenge, we have exceeded it by $135.00!
As Treasurer, I would like to thank everyone who contributed to the challenge. Your generosity has been magnified with the match!

Check out our Calendar of Events


Sundays Between Services in the
Jones Room 9 to 9:45 am

Join Us Anytime!

October 6 to December 15
God of Love: A Guide to the Heart of Judaism, Christianity and Islam by Mirabai Starr


ST. MARY’S SOCIETY RUMMAGE SALE will be held on Thursday, October 10th from 9AM-2PM and Friday, October 11th, from 9AM-1PM. There is a $5 bag sale all day Friday. Set up is scheduled for Monday, October 8th and Tuesday, October 9th. Please sign up in Farnsworth Hall to volunteer. The following items will be accepted: clean clothing, dishes/glassware, small appliances, jewelry, books, knick-knacks, linens/tablecloths, bedspreads, blankets, shoes. We do not accept these items: Underwear, swim suits, non-working appliances, suitcases, exercise equipment, encyclopedias or text books. Donations will be accepted in Farnsworth Hall from 11:30AM until 3:00PM on Sunday, 6th.


Please consider hosting a HOME CHURCH GATHERING. We will bless your home with Love, Laughter, food, scripture and Eucharist. A fun and casual way to worship like the early church did! Sign-up or call the parish office for details.
Our next gathering will be at the home of Liz and Bill Bogardus on Monday, October 28th


For the Soup Kitchen in Asbury Park. We need a few more volunteers for 1 or 2 Saturday mornings a year. Please contact Laura Grodewald (ldunn06@gmail.com / 732-948-3186) for more information.


Please help yourself to Centering Prayer pamphlet, located at the back of the church. Centering Prayer is a beautiful form of Christian meditation that has, for centuries, drawn people into deeper intimacy with God. If you have any questions, or would like to discuss your prayer life and the possibility of trying Christian meditation, please speak to Mother Victoria any time.

MARY’S TABLEMARY’S TABLE is in desperate need of baked items for Thursday evenings. If you have any questions, please contact Kathy at 732-600-3916 Thank you so much for all you do for this wonderful ministry.
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Mary's Table is the recipient of a grant to
support our feeding ministry from the
Hurricane Sandy New Jersey Relief Foundation


Traveling for business or pleasure? Please consider bringing home the hotel’s or ship’s toiletries to share with the seafarer’s at SCI. SCI is eager to receive travel-sized toothpaste, shampoo, conditioner, lotion (hand or body), and soap. Unscented items are preferred. Please leave your donations in the kitchen marked for Elaine Long.

Eighteenth Sunday after Pentecost
Proper 23
October 6, 2019

Lord, we pray that your grace may always precede and follow us, that we may continually be given to good works; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

These are the words of the letter that the prophet Jeremiah sent from Jerusalem to the remaining elders among the exiles, and to the priests, the prophets, and all the people, whom Nebuchadnezzar had taken into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon.

Thus says the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, to all the exiles whom I have sent into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon: Build houses and live in them; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Take wives and have sons and daughters; take wives for your sons, and give your daughters in marriage, that they may bear sons and daughters; multiply there, and do not decrease. But seek the welfare of the city where I have sent you into exile, and pray to the Lord on its behalf, for in its welfare you will find your welfare.

Jeremiah 29:1, 4-7

Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead, a descendant of David-- that is my gospel, for which I suffer hardship, even to the point of being chained like a criminal. But the word of God is not chained. Therefore I endure everything for the sake of the elect, so that they may also obtain the salvation that is in Christ Jesus, with eternal glory. The saying is sure:

If we have died with him, we will also live with him;
if we endure, we will also reign with him;
if we deny him, he will also deny us;
if we are faithless, he remains faithful--
for he cannot deny himself.

Remind them of this, and warn them before God that they are to avoid wrangling over words, which does no good but only ruins those who are listening. Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved by him, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly explaining the word of truth.

2 Timothy 2:8-15

On the way to Jerusalem Jesus was going through the region between Samaria and Galilee. As he entered a village, ten lepers approached him. Keeping their distance, they called out, saying, "Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!" When he saw them, he said to them, "Go and show yourselves to the priests." And as they went, they were made clean. Then one of them, when he saw that he was healed, turned back, praising God with a loud voice. He prostrated himself at Jesus' feet and thanked him. And he was a Samaritan. Then Jesus asked, "Were not ten made clean? But the other nine, where are they? Was none of them found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?" Then he said to him, "Get up and go on your way; your faith has made you well."

Luke 17:11-19

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